Do you believe in Hard and Soft Limits? Also if your sub wanted a safe word would you have one

art-of-domination:

A sub should always have a safeword. Always. No exception. No matter how long you’ve played, no matter how much trust has been built. Always. Any “Dom” who tells you they don’t believe in safewords is not someone you should consider playing with.

You should also always have limits, both hard and soft and those limits should be discussed in detail prior to playing. Always.

Finally, an important point. To any sub out there who feels ashamed to use your safeword, or feels that your Dom will be upset with you. Don’t ever hesitate to safeword if a limit is breached or you can’t take any more. There is no shame in it at all. I understand it can be hard to say it and that a submissive’s instinct is to keep going. That being said, it’s important that you speak up and let your partner know. A good Dom will end the scene immediately and take good care of you. This is why it’s so important to have trust with someone prior to playing. A sub must be able to feel comfortable using their safeword at the right time. Please don’t make the mistake of not wanting to offend. You won’t offend a good Dom. Just the opposite. They will be happy you did. A good Dom does not want to put you in a situation you cannot handle. They want the best for you too. They care about you and want to keep you safe. They don’t want to put you in a place that ruins a night or places you in harm’s way.

And Doms – Check in with your partner during a session. Make sure they are ok. This does not ruin a scene. It in fact, makes it better. It will build trust and show you are responsible. You are the leader in this scenario. Act like one. Uphold your responsibility. It should not be all on your sub to maintain safety. It’s on you too. Perhaps more so.

Safe, sane and consensual. Please keep that in mind.