ladyclara42:

Feminism v D/s

(To my vanilla friends)

“I have rules to follow and obey, if I misbehave I’m punished, I mind my manners, my attitude towards him and do all I can to ensure he has his needs tended to and taken care off.”

If I said that out loud to someone they would interpret that as though I were some down trodden woman in an abusive relationship. At best a gaggle of women would plan an intervention to rid me of the atrocity I was suffering at the hands of a man, at worst the far right feminists of today would have a heart attack and a witch hunt would be underway to slay the terrible dragon that chains me to the kitchen sink and rescue me into the arms of a world where the heart of an Amazon warrior is tattooed upon my arm, as I stand side by side an army of female comrades to rid the world of these inferior men who pray on the weakness of a woman… Or something to that dramatic effect!

And If I were to add onto the end of that sentence “…And I live this way by choice.”

Well. I’d be shunned by my fellow sistren!

I would describe myself as a feminist, yet in order to be taken seriously it seems I have to be someone who contributes to the sciences, to the GDP, maybe have doctorates or hold some high level of social standing or worse, show the sisterhood how strong I am by having a brow beaten man at my side.

Is that what we have become? Intellectual snobs? Bullies?

To me feminism means to have the equal rights between the sexes, be it social, economic or political. This means that we have the same openings to education, the right to voice our opinion, the right to vote, to work, to live a life that we have chosen to live, born from our own decisions with no intervention or dictation from our male counterparts.

I am not denied anything life has to offer. I’ve been educated, have worked under the capacity of an employee and as an employer and even though my political views are not strong towards one particular side, as admittedly, I tend to flit between the two main parties depending on the current situation but the point is that the choice is mine to do so, as are all of the decisions I make in my life.

I’m not in a 24/7 D/s lifestyle but I want to be. It’s the lifestyle I choose to have for myself. To have a home life where I want to have dinner on the table, ready for when my man returns home, have his clothes washed, ironed and laid out for him ready for the next day, to run and be responsible for keeping our home clean, warm and loving, to tend to his needs and expectations and to follow his rules and guidance. I do not want to be dependant on him, I need my work to keep my brain active, to feel like I’m contributing, to also give me the social aspects that come from working and the many conversations that can be shared from having an existence outside of our home life.

However the dynamic works for myself and my desired future partner, I can say with 100% honesty that I will enter into this lifestyle of my own volition through my own power of choice and I will do so with the heart and manner of a true feminist.

So lay down your spears my warrior sisters, yes there are still many battles to be won but I assure you that the D/s lifestyle is not one of them.