Sometimes I see people talk about finding a balance between when to be her man and when to be her Dom. They mean when to be supportive and comforting, and when to be firm and strict. Sure, a balance between those is important, but I guess seeing it phrased as mutually exclusive makes me sad. He is still my partner when he’s giving me the firm hand that I need, and he is my Dominant when he’s providing me with a safe place to land. In fact, I wouldn’t give him my submission if he wasn’t my safe place, too. Dominance can be “soft” things like holding me while I cry, if that’s what I need.
Mischief's Muse 