Some Sub needs… (they don’t say out loud)

sirwelty:

1. Please touch us

Cuddle us, spoon us,
grab the small of our backs. Kiss our foreheads and make us feel small.
We crave your hands all over us. We love them no matter where they
happen to land–be that on our asses or up our skirts.
Just. Touch. Us. It reminds us that we’re yours.

2. Take pride in us

Relish
in the fact that we’re yours–that we belong to you and no one else.
Smile when we enter the room because you know we’re walking toward you.
It lets us know you care. It makes us want to be better for you.

3. Let us cry

When
we are sad or angry, or pissed the hell off. When we drink too
much…especially when we drink too much, let us cry our eyes out. Let us
be messes, with mascara running down our cheeks and pints of ice cream
in our hands. Let us be okay with not being okay once in a while. This
one requires no action from you, just that you be okay with it when it
happens.

4. Forgive

Despite how hard we
try, we will make mistakes. We will fuck things up, say things wrong, do
things crazy, and when that happens we need you to forgive us. We’re
not talking immediate forgiveness, or that a price won’t often be paid
for it, but forgiveness that comes eventually. We need to know that the
slate has been wiped clean, all trespasses have been forgiven…and when
it happens, don’t forget to let us know. See number 5.

5. Communicate… often!

We
need this.. If we don’t discuss something, it will fester in our brains
forever, eventually driving us crazy. A three minute conversation could
ease hours of worry for us once an uneasy feeling sets in. If that can
be prevented with a few sentences, please take the time to speak them.
Honestly, like two seconds of your time could stop our heads from
exploding….and you don’t want to clean up that mess, do you?

6. We want you to make us feel pretty

Not
that you don’t make us feel super sexy pretty darn often, but once in a
while, it’s good to actually hear. Tell us our ass looks great in our
yoga pants, that our hair looks especially shiny today. Tell us you like
our new boots. Notice something small and compliment us about it, and
our hearts will swell for days. Compliments let us know what it’s like
to look through your eyes. Those are glimpses of the world we don’t
often get to see.

7. It’s the little things

Some
of these are sounding cliche, but are just so fucking true. Sure, your
big gestures of grandeur are admired, but it is often the small things
that get our cheeks turning red. Leave a note on the mirror in the
morning telling us to have a great day. Sit next to us during a movie
you have no desire to see. Take the dog out in the morning so we can
sleep in for an extra 10 minutes, remember what ice cream we prefer to
eat when we cry. If you do these things, we’re yours for life.

8. Remember things

Speaking
of little things, try to remember them. Things like how we take our
coffee and the name of that bitchy girl who sits next to us at work.
Remember anything. Three weeks from now, bust out some silly story we
told you over dinner one evening in great detail. Remember something
we’d never expect you to store into your internal drive. Remember our
first concert together, and our best friend from kindergarten’s name.
The more obscure the better.

9. Deal with us

When
we’re singing in the car. When we drink too much wine. When we
completely melt down. Deal with our pasts, and when we don’t feel
pretty. Deal with our stretch marks and insecurities, our early bedtimes
and exhaustion. Deal with our mood, and how we load the dishwasher the
wrong way. These things silently tell us that you’ll be by our sides
regardless of how nerdy, silly or utterly hopeless we can get.

Finally, the most important thing we need from you that we’ll never say out loud:

10. Be the most stable thing in our lives

Be
stronger than us. Be the one person in our world that won’t turn on us
or walk away. When life becomes scary and confusing, and we just need
something solid to hold onto, please be our anchor. It’s because of you
that our awful days are easier to get through. Don’t be perfect. Just be
there. It’s the only real requirement on this list.