So this weekend, Sir and I began with a date night to celebrate our anniversary, and we followed that up with a lot of work. I did all the spring cleaning, and He did some vehicle and exterior maintenance. (He put solar panels on our backyard shed for electric, and well…let’s just say that kind of thing works for me. Haha!)
Today, while I mostly got to relax other than routine cooking and straightening up, Sir continued working. An unexpected problem arose with our most recent vehicle purchased. I know it upset Him. But rather than screaming with anger or lashing out or slamming doors or lamenting that the sky is falling, He just calmly assessed the problem and the possible solutions and started making a plan. Which He can fully execute Himself. With maybe some minor assistance (like ‘hold this’ or ‘hand me this’) from me.
I’ve heard people (even people here in the Tumblr D/s community) say that this type of behavior should be expected and not celebrated. That being calm and considerate and careful is the bare minimum for decent human behavior, and they don’t deserve applause. But in my personal experience, Sir’s measured responses to surprising disappointment and understandable frustration and annoyance are *rare.* Exceptionally rare. And I think they’re worthy of celebration.
My life before Sir was spent with people who raise their voices over the location of your shoes in relation to the front door. When something like a pipe bursting in a wall would happen, they would seriously suggest calling 911, and anticipate out loud filing for bankruptcy once the plumber sends the bill. So when Sir faces the unplanned and problematic with calmness and capability, it’s extremely comforting.
@triumphridethelightning, I am so grateful to be your wife every day. Your leadership makes the problems we face seem small and easily managed, when I was always so used to each inconvenience being treated like a tragedy.
Teary eyed ….
Beautifully familiar @i-could-be-the-walrus and @triumphridethelightning .
From our heart to yours, Happy Anniversary 💖
Beautiful read.
Calmness and Capability
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